My Son is a Ballet Dancer! Deal With It!

My son, 4, has been laughed at by grown men, called a sissy and told he’s not a real boy. Why? Because he’s taking ballet lessons.

Every weekend, he puts on his ballet shoes, leotards, and lines up with the girls to

The male dancer brings a lot of power to a performance.

improve his point. He loves it and as long as he loves it I’ll aggressively defend his right to ballet.

So what’s our issue with men in tights?

My friend Joe feels ballet is just for girls. “It’s not a real sport, is it?” he told me. “Boys should be playing football, baseball, or basketball.”

Okay, boys can play ball sports. I just don’t see that the activities are equally exclusive. If Jacob wants to take basketball lessons then I’ll be pleased to support him. Just as I’ll support my daughters if they want to play football.

Far from being an assertive mother, it was Carson who wanted to try it out for himself after watching an ballet at the local theater. He was blown away by the male dancers’ muscles and the way they lifted the ladies.

There are many mothers I have heard from that have gotten negativity about their son’s choice of hobby. Some stupid dad in a school meeting once said something about it being gay. I didn’t even saying anything. You can’t quarrel with someone who thinks that children can be “turned’ gay.” I have no intention, like the other mothers, of taking Carson out of dance classes while he’s still loves it. I hope he’ll stay for many years.

Ballet can truly help boys with physical development, confidence, posture, discipline, and multi-tasking. A ballet teacher wrote me and said: “I have had boys in my classes who believe they are lacking in several areas of their lives. If I can offer them self-assurance through dance this is a good thing.”